I think it's time that I open up about something going on in my life. I've obviously been out of blogging for a long time and many of you have asked me about it. I've been so preoccupied with other things going on that I haven't had time or emotional energy for blogging or keeping in touch or, sadly, being a good friend. So please don't take any unreturned emails, Facebook messages, or phone calls personally.
Many of you have heard about this by now but some probably still haven't. The last couple of years in particular have been really rough for my marriage. Things have not been going well and despite our best efforts and several months of counseling, we have not been able to work things out. After over a year of thinking and praying and soul-searching, I finally filed for divorce at the beginning of January. Anyone who knows me knows that this is not something I came to quickly or easily. But it is something that I believe will be for the best in the long run for everyone involved.
We've continued living together the last couple of months and keeping it together for our boys' sake. I think we've done a pretty good job of keeping them out of it and I hope we can always be successful in that. We both love them more than anything and we both have their best interests at heart.
We haven't worked out all the details yet, but things are starting to come together. I've leased an apartment nearby and the boys and I will be moving out at the end of this month. There is a daycare that I've toured several times that I feel really comfortable with for Sam that is 1/2 mile from my apartment, and Noah's elementary school is just 1/2 mile from that. I've started working part-time while the boys are in preschool. I work retail on the weekends and I work during the week (preschool hours) at a CPA firm in Houston and will hopefully move up to full-time there when preschool lets out at the end of May. Although accounting has never been my favorite thing, I'm really grateful that I've been able to get a good job after being out of that world for almost five years. And I'm unbelievably grateful for the baby and toddler years I had at home with my boys.
Anyway, so that's what's going on over here. Life's hard sometimes.
Friday, March 06, 2009
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Amy, I am so truly sorry. My heart breaks for you and Ben and I hope you are all able to find some peace and comfort during this time. Let me know if there is anything I can do to help - I'm really not that far away. Even if you just need a mini-vacation Dallas is a short trip away and I'd love to meet those darling boys.
Love,
Steph
Amy, words cannot describe how sorry I am for what you are going through . . please know that you are in my prayers. Also, if you ever need anyone to talk to that knows what you're going through, I am just a phone call away. Keep your chin up.
Just wanted to say that I love you!
I love you Amy!
We all love you Amy
Amy, My heart goes out to you! You are such a strong person I know you'll get through this. You will be in my prayers. I know we haven't kept in touch very well since we left BYU but I often think of you and our fun times! I have enjoyed reading your blog and seeing your adorable boys grow. Love you, Katie
you know we're always thinking of and praying for you...and i'm always just a phone call away!
We love you guys too! Your little family is in our prayers, and we are glad that you will still be nearby! Come over ANY time, I've missed getting together the last little while!
You have been in our prayers since we heard. Much much love, Ashley
I have been wondering where you had been and I am so sad to hear that this is the reason. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Love you
I'm glad we had a chance to catch up a few weeks ago. It was so good to talk to you! You've been in my thoughts recently, and I just wanted to send my love! I'm here for you if you need anything!
Thank you for sharing. It takes courage and you said it all so eloquently. I know I've said this a million times but I truly mean it, call me if you need anything.
Amy, I'm glad you posted this, I've been wondering about you. I'm so sorry you are going through this. I miss you lots and love you too!
Amy, I am so sorry to hear your news and my heart truly aches for you and your family. You will be in our prayers as you start this new chapter in life. I love you!!
Been thinking about you and hoping you're doing okay. Take care and know that you've got support all over.
Love you, Amy!
We love you Amy and want you to now you are one amazing parent with two awesome boys!
Amy, that was a very brave post. I will pray that your boys will endure the transition well, that you will enjoy your new work, and this month will move forward smoothly for your family. Blessings to you and yours.
Amy, you are all in our prayers. We love you all and hope for the best for everyone.
oh sweetie, I am so sorry. I love you. Call me if you need to talk. Even though we haven't talked in a while, I am always here.
I'm wishing you the very best Amy. I hope things just get better and better for you and your boys from here on out!
Amy-
You are so strong!! If anyone can endure this, it is you. I love you to death and miss our long phone calls we would have- it's been too long since the last one. I'm here any time and I truly mean it!
Love,
Shauna
Loving you!
Oh Amy, forgive me in being so late to comment - I just barely read this and had no idea. If you ever, ever need a little break or respite - you are always welcome here - always! We love you *all* and miss you and have you in our prayers.
Hugs
Jenn
Amy- I haven't talked to you in so long, but I just wanted to tell you I am sorry for the hard times you are going through. You are an incredibly smart, capable and loving person. You have lots of us rooting for you from your home in Walnut Creek. I wish you could move back here!!! Sending you lots of love and prayers.
Kelley Hauck
Amy, sorry to hear about the news. We will be thinking of you guys...
take care of yourself!
You are still being missed and thought about in my realm of the world. Hang in there! (What does that even mean? Hang in where? Why are you hanging? It's like "sit tight." Well, sit tight and hang in there!)
Amy, today for some reason I was thinking about you and decided to check out your blog, seeing as how we haven't talked in so long! I am so very sorry, this just hurts my heart. If you need anything, just let me know.
Amy--
I'm just now catching up with your blog, and I'm so sorry to hear all that you have been going through. I'm sure it's nothing you imagined yourself dealing with in life. Just know my heart and prayers are with you. It sounds like your parents and so many others are supporting you, and I hope you are also taking care of yourself!
Amy,
We are so sorry to hear about this trial that you have to endure. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.
Amy
Amy,
I obviously haven't looked at your blog in a long time (forgive me), but I just stumbled upon this. I don't know what I can possibly say. I know this must have been an incredibly difficult time for you, and hope that things are better now that some time has passed. You are so strong and beautiful, inside and out, and so many people care about you and love you (even when we are really terrible about keeping in touch - like me). I will pray for you every day. God has a plan, even when its hard for us to see or understand.
Love you!
Mary
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